How to be more Attractive

They always say it’s not about your looks, and that it’s more about what your personality is like. Though that might be true, it isn’t wrong for one to want to look good and appeal to the beauty of the eye. There are those days when we look at ourselves in the mirror, wishing we had clearer skin or wanting our features to look in a certain way, and as much as you wish you could change a lot about yourself, the truth is you don’t necessarily need to alter the way you look to feel (or be) beautiful. You just need to put in the effort to take care of yourself in a healthy way to light up the spark of being attractive. Here are a couple of ideas that could help:

1. Confidence

They say confidence is the key to achieving anything. There are definitely no contradictions to that. Rather than asking yourself what you can do to be more attractive, be more proud of the abilities, ideas, and qualities that dwell within you. Have faith in yourself to believe that you are attractive because you are. Everyone is unique in their own way, and that’s what makes you different from the rest of the world. They can never be you and you can never be them. Own up-to yourself. Having confidence comes from being confident enough to put yourself out there more. 

2. Maintain personal hygiene

Being attractive isn’t just about the way you dress up or how much makeup you put on. The majority of your attractiveness is contributed by the way you nurture your personal hygiene. Personal hygiene is also important to maintain good health. Keeping your body clean can have positive effects on your physical and mental health. The basics of personal hygiene include practicing washing your hands often, brushing and flossing your teeth every day, taking care of your skin, keeping your nails clean, checking on your medical hygiene, and everything else that needs to be done in an uncompromising manner. Not only is personal hygiene necessary for your well-being, but it also drives us into the feeling of experiencing personal relaxation, reflects a better appearance of ourselves, and even boosts our self-confidence. 

3. Being bold

Whether it’s you trying to be attractive just for yourself or trying to seek the approval of someone you might find interested in, validate the feelings of those around you. Rather than playing hard to get, drop a hint, or better yet let them know that you are genuinely interested in them if you’re bold enough. Being bold makes you look attractive because people will always be interested in what you have to say. It motivates you to make your qualities your own and it’s also a sign of being confident, comfortable, courageous, and determined. It integrates growth, progress, and movement for yourself as well as others around you. Be fearless. Be bold.

4. Be a good listener

As much as we love to talk about the things we’re interested in or the things we’re great at, sometimes it’s good to just sit back and listen to what the other person has to say. This might make them feel more comfortable opening up to you which gives them a chance to connect better with you. Being attractive isn’t always about your looks. It also goes about the way you respond and reacts when people are engaging in a conversation with you. Look them in the eye when you’re communicating. Have an open mind. Judge less. Listen more. 

5. Portraying better body language

A study finds that standing tall with your shoulders relaxed often portrays a good posture. It improves blood flow, and spine health and supports your muscles. With good posture, you’ll naturally be able to improve your body language as well. Your body language is a bonus point for your overall impression. Without proper body language, you may find it stressful when trapped in an environment you’re not able to integrate with. Don’t fold your arms across your chest, because if you are willing to encourage collaboration, you need to remove the barrier. Shaking hands to instantly connect with someone is a tip to establish warmth and comfort. You can even use your hands to improve your speech, as long as you don’t wag them around too much. Smile to stimulate good feelings. Improving your body language takes time and practice but once you get the hang of it, you’ll realize you’re doing better right now compared to where you used to be back then. 

6. Picking out the proper clothing

If you’re one of the people who think that you need to own several varieties of clothes, that you shouldn’t be allowed to repeat what you’re wearing, and that you need to go on a shopping spree to the mall every weekend to buy the latest brands, I can’t even begin to tell you how untrue this is. Rather than worrying about working your wardrobe and looking for trendier accessories, wear what your body is capable of wearing, not the other way around. This is something a lot of people never talk about. Although everyone has the freedom to choose what they like and want to put on, the real secret to being attractive is to adjust your clothing so that it works with your proportions. Stop tucking in your stomach if your jeans are too tight. Stop arching your back for the zipper to go all the way up to your dress. You don’t need to have the body of Victoria’s Secret model to be attractive. Dress according to your needs. Not your wants. 

7. Be kind

Although the saying “True beauty lies on the inside” sounds like a very cheesy quote, don’t let who you are on the outside define what you must be like on the inside. At the end of the day, people will like you for you- and that means the way you treat them. It isn’t any good if you are drop-dead gorgeous on the outside but you can’t be half of that on the inside. Be kind. Spread warmth. Send love and light to those around you. Open your heart to the world, and watch it make you feel more attractive as it welcomes you. 

Remember that although these are just a couple of tricks to bring out the highlights in you, you don’t have to sweat them to be attractive. Be who you are, not just because there isn’t anyone better, but because you can’t be anyone else, no matter how hard you try. 

Regardless of how pretty you may look or how kind you may be, you aren’t everybody’s cup of tea, and that is normal. Don’t try to be attractive to seek validation or to feel accepted. Do it for you, and when you do, you’ll find those who accept you for you, without having to ask. Life is beautiful, and so are you.